[Bekkles]

Hi Lou,
Are you able to give me any insight at all?
Thanks a lot, Bek

[Bekkles]

Hi Lou,

Not necessarily! I only asked if she got my response earlier as she asked a question and wasn’t sure if she received my response. Any help is greatly appreciated 🙂

[Bekkles]

Hi,

I just have another question if I may please.

Things are going GREAT with this man and I. I have never been happier with someone and my whole attitude towards this relationship has changed. I have been working on myself to be positive and it has made a huge difference. I think he sees this also and it has made him a lot happier in general as there is a positive influence in his life.

He is planning on moving to a different state of Australia early to mid next year and is going to be studying for 2 years. I have been and will always be so supportive towards him in this as it is something he know he wants and has a very large goal at the end of it. I was wondering if you are able to share some insight into whether I will be moving also. And more so, whether he will ask me to move with him. If he asked, I would 100% say yes as I know he is who I am meant to be with. But if he is not completely feeling the way I do just yet, I don’t want him to not ask. It would be a hard time as he would be studying a lot and will probably not be able to work so I would have to find a full time, well paying job if I am unable to transfer my work from here to there. I am more than happy to do anything I need to, to help him get there and to support him.

Any insight would be so valuable and I would appreciate it a lot. Thank you so much for your help already, it has lifted a weight off my shoulders and I can actually enjoy this time we are having together, rather than just constantly worrying!

[Bekkles]

Just checking to see you saw my response to you Fiona 🙂 not sure if you had any more questions. 🙂

[Bekkles]

Thank you Lou, I hope you’re right! I would wait until Christmas next year if I had to haha. He is very special! ??

[Bekkles]

Thank you Fiona. That makes a lot of sense- I have suffered from depression and anxiety because of a previous relationship (very mentally abusing) and although I have been out of that situation for a little while now, parts of the way he treated me still gives me greaf. And unfortunately it effects the way I react in this relationship and I have had a few breakdowns. It’s something that I know I need to work on!

When we do hang out, it is usually just chilling at his place and watching TV or a movie with the occasional dinner down at the pub. We don’t do much, and I haven’t put any pressure on having ‘real dates’ because I didn’t want to pressure him so much that he would snap because it feels like I’m forcing him into a relationship (when he is not ready). I have been thinking of things we can do (camping etc) that are fun but a bit more laid back, but still just the two of us. Just to show him what fun we can have without pressure!

At the moment he is in the army. And any admin he has to do, he hates haha. Much more of a hands on person! He is planning on applying for some work that is requiring study. If he gets through, he won’t start until 2018. He is a mechanic though, and if I’ve ever thought of the future I’ve always thought he may open a workshop. His passion is cars!

[Bekkles]

Thank you Lou.
He has been a pretty closed book about it all. I have only recently found out that he doesn’t want a relationship because of his past. And it broke my heart to know he has been hurt by a relationship. He is a very independent man and he doesn’t really let others in. I will continue to be supportive, but not too much that I turn into a friend/councillor. Hopefully over time he learns to let me in. Thanks again 🙂

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